Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Zen dog ;)


Lessons my adopted shelter dog (Midnight) has taught me that are also great lessons in life:

 If we don't express what we need, we can't assume others to know
 Patience and understanding are necessary
 Kindness is the best way to earn trust
 Trust must be earned
 Unconditional love is the best kind of love
 Running in the morning is a good thing
 Our bodies are full of endless energy
 We all experience pain, suffering and abuse
 We have an amazing ability to heal
 We have an amazing ability to adapt
Sometimes it is in our best interest to let go of the past
 It is important to have a job to do, especially one we enjoy
 Being bored can cause one to get into trouble
 It is important to keep the mind and body active
 Fears can be overcome
 Old habits can be broken
Mistakes help us learn
 We all need a little guidance in order to do our best
 Live in the moment
Life is an adventure
Having fun is one of the greatest things for the body, mind and soul

Words have limitations


“You are what you do, not what you say you'll do.” 
~C.G. Jung

Thursday, February 14, 2013

An opportunity lost



Last night, on the eve of Valentine's Day, I had a dream about my dad. In most of my dreams of him, he does not speak, which is both eerie and confusing. Some of the dreams are good, some of them are bad. I acknowledge that the dreams may be my own psyche dealing with the loss. Yet, a part of me wonders if they could be more. I have no idea. I don't know if there is life after death; I'm not a believer, I'm not a non-believer. Though I do believe that anything is possible.

My dream was so vivid and clear. I was in my old childhood home. My dad walked into the room. It was apparent he was going somewhere. He was all dressed up, even wearing a top hat! He was dressed in a black suit with a white shirt. He looked so young and vibrant, healthy and beaming with light, love and kindness. He called me over to say goodbye, gave me a hug and told me he loved me. I didn't know what to say or do. Unfortunately, our relationship was broken when he left this Earth. In that moment, I knew that. I wasn't simply in a dream state, I was aware of the reality of our struggles. I didn't know how to react or what to say. We never had a moment like that in real life. We both had so much to work through and deal with. I didn't answer him and within seconds we slowly disappeared.

I woke up recalling how young and happy he looked. Knowing him, he was on his way to meet someone for a nice Valentine's date in the afterlife! I also recall feeling sadness in not responding to him. I'm not sure I can recall ever telling my dad that I loved him. That is not easy to sit with. And now I can never tell him, at least not with the two of us together in this lifetime. It's hard, but it's reality. I wish both us would have been brave enough to mend our relationship, but we were not. All I can hope is that he can still hear me and that the dreams like the one I had last night, are a little more than the firing of neurons in my brain. I like to entertain the idea that he came to me with that message for Valentine's Day. That is something he would do. His heart was full of love and kindness...but it was also broken. I hope that next time I can find the courage to speak to him...even in a dream...

Valentine's Day









What is something beautiful about you?
What is something unique about you?
What is something wonderful or amazing about you?

It can sometimes be hard to find these things in ourselves and to honor them. Sometimes, we can get so caught up in our day-to-day lives that we forget to acknowledge and honor these aspects of ourselves, yet it is so important to do so. I am a firm believer that we must love ourselves in order to love others. The more we show ourselves love and honor, the more we can love and honor others. What kinds of practices or activities can we do to help remind us of the unique and wonderful things that make us who we are?

Thursday, January 31, 2013

Inspired by a 10-year old

On one of those days where I sit and think about how irresponsible we as a species are, destroying one of the most remarkable places in the Universe, I can watch this and have a glimmer of hope again. Kudos to the parents of this kiddo: http://grist.org/list/adorable-10-year-old-entrepreneur-runs-a-business-collecting-recyclables-on-his-bike/?utm_campaign=living&utm_medium=email&utm_source=newsletter

Monday, January 21, 2013

Faith


“Faith is taking the first step even when you can't see the whole staircase.” 
Martin Luther King Jr.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Reflective questions for 2013


The tradition of setting New Year's resolutions has always been entertaining to me. We decide to examine things and resolve to make changes once a year and then often forget about them or lose our determination just several months in. And it makes sense that we often fail. When examining an entire year, it can be easy to set too many goals or set goals for the year that really need to be broken down into smaller sections of time or into smaller steps. We often set lofty goals, but don't really sit down and work out the details that are necessary for accomplishing them.

While the New Year's resolution tradition seems a bit cliche in some ways, I still think it's a great and valuable practice. I think it is much more helpful to make it a practice for the entire year. Whether we check in with ourselves once a day or once every few months, it takes work and attention to be successful. I also feel that taking the practice a little deeper is very helpful. Instead of simply compiling a list of goals, we can go further by asking ourselves reflective questions to help us look more in-depth at what we really want, why we want it and what is going on inside of us. We often don't take much time in our busy lives to just reflect on and check in with our internal landscape, and yet that is the environment that gives way to our dreams, goals and happiness.

Here is a list of what I believe to be good reflective questions for the New Year (compiled from several sources on the web):

-Pick three words to describe 2012
-What are my goals for the coming year?
-What are my dreams for the coming year?
-How do you want to feel in 2013? List three emotions that you want to feel on a regular basis.
-What would need to shift for you to feel this way? What habits or activities would support these feelings?
-What do you want to do in 2013?
-What impact do you want to have on the world?
-What are you curious to learn about in 2013?
-What did you learn in 2012 that you have not yet embedded into your way of working or being?
-What do you feel inspired to get involved with?
-What do you need to stop doing?
-What is your inner voice saying?
-What is your inner Risk Manager (the part that wants to keep you safe) saying? What evidence is there that
supports or does not support your Risk Manager’s view?
-What are your top, non negotiable priorities?
-What is one thing that would bring joy into your life?
-What do you need to commit to in order to be who you want to be in 2013?

Monday, December 31, 2012

The future is unforeseeable


 The goal of foreseeing the future exactly and preparing for it perfectly is unrealizable. The idea of making a complex system do just what you want it to do can be achieved only temporarily, at best...The future can't be predicted, but it can be envisioned and brought lovely into being. 
~Donella Meadows, Thinking in Systems

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Indigenous vs Western View of Technology

The following are excerpts from The Healing Wisdom of Africa by Malidoma Some. Malidoma has had the rare experience of being immersed in both Western culture and African tribal culture. Through his writings, he brings a great gift of speaking to the strengths of each culture and how important it is to balance these aspects. There is much to be learned from tribal beliefs. They hold an ancient wisdom that we have lost in our present-day society. If incorporated into our modern technological world, we could achieve a much more peaceful, balanced and healthy way of living. The following writings from Malidoma provide a view regarding technology that I believe our culture can benefit from immensely. I am not against technology at all and believe that society can benefit greatly from it. I am against the way in which some technology has been developed and thrives at the expense of the natural world and human health and well-being.
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In the indigenous world, technology takes a radically different form than in the West because its intention is not to disturb the natural world. Indigenous people tend to be familiar with the sorts of technology that do not assault nature, do not compete with the natural order, and do not tend to show them as superior with respect to nature. Indigenous technology, which focuses on working with the world of Spirit, requires the same awareness for safe operation as does Western technology focused on manipulating matter. It doesn't make you want to settle in here with a mountain of possessions and a large mortgage.

Technologies in the indigenous world are developed in order to fulfill basic human needs, such as community health, harmony, and a sense of meaning and purpose in life. In this sense technology is oriented toward Spirit. This seems to contrast with the West, where the craving for connection with the deeper sense of meaning and the yearning for spiritual vitality are most diluted amid the noise of traffic and factories. Yet it is obvious that the one wants or needs the other. Villagers in West Africa who are taken on a tour of a factory often come out of there silent for days, unable to put in words what they saw. They are mesmerized at the power of the machine and its ability to make things. Some are confused as to whether there is a spirit behind all this or if the machine is not the spirit in disguise. They report that they feel as if their spirit was sucked out in the factory and that they need healing to recover from their encounter. This recovery often leads to the person returning to the city in search of the god of the white man whose power they have seen. But enchantment with technology can work in the other direction also. A Westerner is introduced to village "magic" and decides to settle there.

Many ecologists and environmentalists in the West say that technology sets itself up as an enemy of nature. They fight to close a nuclear power plant here or there because they understand that the purity of Nature is being contaminated by these plants, and the consequences to countless species, including humankind, are serious. Westerners talk about rivers of pure water having become like sewers. One gets an image of industry abandoning its droppings anywhere it wishes, knowing full well that what it cannot digest, nothing can. Some suggest this is the price to pay to get the results needed. Hasn't modern technology, overall, contributed to bettering human life? The problem is that wherever there is a yet-undamaged piece of the world, modernity tends to regard that place as primitive, archaic, and, at best, pre-industrial.

By contrast, indigenous technologies look rather non-aggressive. In producing anything, indigenous people make it a point to inquire with the Spirit World as to whether this product is appropriate. For indigenous Africans, dream and vision are evidence of the Spirit pointing the way to us. What is shown to you in that manner is actually an invitation from a higher realm to consecrate yourself to the production of something that is going to benefit the greater community.


A culture that is in touch with its spiritual connection is a culture that is poised to evolve. In the indigenous context, change is tolerated, even welcomed, because it originates with Spirit. If evolution originates in a spiritual source, then it does not disrupt stability. If evolution is seen in terms of the modern definition, concerned with ascendancy, acquisition, and control and mastery over the material world, then evolution becomes destructive to stability. The modern notion of stability has a heavy load of military hardware associated with it. This contrasts sharply with the indigenous view of stability, which is a state of alignment with Spirit, with cosmic rules and regulations.

The very word cosmos implies evolution, and in this context, evolution means discovering new things and learning new methods of handling the affairs of life. This is one purpose of technology, to help human beings increase their awareness and consciousness. In this sense precolonial indigenous cultures, even within their apparently primitive technologies, were heavily involved in an evolutionary process. In the interest of their own evolution, it was essential to maintain cohesion within the culture, for you have to stick together to evolve together. In the development of Western technologies, we cannot allow some among us to evolve while some are left behind, because that is not community. Community is the common handling of the journey. Attention to community and to Spirit in indigenous technologies has meant, however, that the evolution of indigenous cultures takes place quietly, without the explosive and destructive side effects of Western technology. When your ties with Spirit are strong enough your evolution has less visibility. A good portion of modern technology is extremely destructive, probably because of the lesser presence of Spirit within it. The larger the presence of the Spirit, the subtler and less polluting technological evolution will be.
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On one of my trips to my village I brought a VCR, a small TV, and some videotapes of this popular science fiction show [Star Trek]. During one of the scenes where people were being dematerialized and moved around by the transporter machine, I asked the elders if they understood what was going on. They were rather taken aback, replying that of course they knew what was happening, but could I please explain what all of the machines were for.
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Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Don't edit your own soul...


“Don't bend; don't water it down; don't try to make it logical; don't edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.” 

- Franz Kafka